Family stories play a crucial role in shaping our beliefs about health, work, and other aspects of life. In previous episodes, we’ve talked about the way traumatic experiences can impact your health and fibromyalgia. Today, we’re taking it a step further and exploring how the traumatic events that happened to your ancestors can affect your wellbeing.
You may have a family story about a great-aunt who is always sick and uses that to escape family obligations. Or maybe you watched your grandfather work himself to the point of illness. Even positive stories can get twisted over time; either way, they matter. They impact our relationship with our bodies, health, money, and even the world around us. The important thing is we can change those stories.
Today, Tami is joined by Ruschelle Khanna, a licensed clinical social worker and executive coach, to share her expertise on generational trauma. In this episode, Tami and Ruschelle discuss how Ruschelle came to do this work, how generational trauma can impact fibromyalgia and overall wellbeing, why Ruschelle decided to write her book, the concept of inheriting memories and traumatic experiences, Ruschelle’s experience with fear stemming from her mother’s early memories, the impact of family stories and peripheral experiences on generational trauma, how trauma affects the fascia and its connection to fibromyalgia pain, a recent example from a client of Ruschelle’s demonstrating the release of stored emotions through somatic therapy, how trauma affects the body’s flow of energy and information, looking at whether the muscular system, hormonal system, and energetic systems are flowing correctly, parallels between money management and fibromyalgia symptoms, the connection between strained family relationships, childhood trauma, and the development of chronic illnesses like fibromyalgia, what to do if your family isn’t supportive, why you need fo focus on and cultivate the areas where life is supporting you, talking to your body and acknowledging the thoughts and sensations in different body parts, why tapping is an excellent modality for working on the physical aspects of generational trauma, tracing family narratives and rewriting memories, where to find a genealogist or family constellation therapist for help in addressing generational trauma, the difference between coaching and therapy, healing through writing and connecting with ancestors, and more.
Note: This episode is not meant to be medical advice. Every person and every situation is unique. The information you learn in this episode should be shared and discussed with your own healthcare providers.
About Ruschelle Khanna, LCSW
Ruschelle Khanna is an LCSW and Executive Coach. She is on a mission to sort the complexities of family & business to foster health & wealth across generations. She works with individuals and families to overcome trauma, resolve conflict, and live happier, more fulfilled lives.
Ruschelle specializes in working with Couples in all stages of conflict, Executives and High Performing Individuals seeking stress management and/or peak performance support, Family Businesses both in conflict and in the active prevention of conflict, those suffering from Financial Trauma, or Adult Children struggling with a failure to launch in ultra-high net worth families, and those navigating life with a Chronic Disease such as Lyme Disease or fibromyalgia.
Ruschelle is also the author of the upcoming book to be released Spring 2024: Creating an ECHO Legacy: Overcome generational trauma to build true wealth. The book includes practical tools for addressing some of the challenges that can come up when families have patterns of trauma lingering in their interactions.
Links & Resources
- Mark Wolynn’s Book | It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle
- Bessel van der Kolk M.D.’s Book | The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
- Brad Yates on YouTube (EFT/Tapping Videos)
- Genealogist | If you’re looking for a genealogist who can lovingly help you heal as you uncover your family stories, Ruschelle recommends Bernadette at TellMeOurStory.com
- Fibromyalgia Podcast® Episodes
- Episode 65: EFT for Fibromyalgia with Lauren Fonvielle
- Episode 81: Befriend Your Nervous System with Sarah Kleiner
- Episode 23: Counseling, Coaching, and Post-Traumatic Growth with Dr. Robin Pfaff
- Episode 41: Post-Traumatic Growth in Fibromyalgia with Dr. Robin Pfaff
- Episode 94: Grief and Fibromyalgia with Pat Sheveland
- Find a Certified Fibromyalgia Coach® to help you at FindAFibroCoach.com
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