As an eternal optimist, Tami likes to keep this podcast positive, often focusing on ways you can feel better with fibromyalgia. But you can’t talk about fibromyalgia without exploring the darker side of things, like the grief many of us experience.
Grief affects all of us physically, emotionally, and energetically. Fibromyalgia can often seem like an endless taking away of things, from living in a body that doesn’t function the way it used to, to the loss of our jobs, family, or friends who don’t understand. It’s natural to experience grief over the way life used to be.
Today, Tami is happy to share a conversation she’s been looking forward to for months: her interview with grief coach Pat Sheveland, where they explore the intersection of grief and fibromyalgia. In this episode, Tami and Pat talk about how grief often shows up for those of us with fibromyalgia, Pat’s journey to grief coaching, the experience of writing four books, how grief affects us physically, the science of the grieving brain, why our fibromyalgia symptoms are amplified by grief, defining grief, the many different ways grief and loss show up in our lives, the grief of losing your life before fibromyalgia, the fallout that happens in various aspects of our lives when we have fibromyalgia, how to distinguish between sadness and grief, finding a safe space to talk about your grief, there is no timeline for grief, learning to coexist with grief, Pat’s recommendations for supporting yourself through grief, getting rid of the stigma of seeking help with managing grief, the benefits of working with a trained grief professional instead of relying on family or friends only, next steps for you if you’re ready for support with your grief, Pat’s beautiful message for you, and more.
Note: This episode is not meant to be medical advice. Every person and every situation is unique. The information you learn in this episode should be shared and discussed with your own healthcare providers.
About Pat Sheveland
Patricia (Pat) Sheveland, RN, is a professionally certified life coach through the International Coaching Federation, a qigong teacher and mentor coach providing grief coaching certification for coaches and other helping professionals. Born to grieving parents, she brings a unique perspective to supporting her grieving clients in finding peace and purpose after deep loss. She is a certified funeral celebrant and the three-time Amazon best-selling author of How Do I Survive? 7 Steps to Living After Child Loss, Living Life in The Middle: The Caregiver’s Guide to Healing, Hope and Harmony Through Multigenerational Living, and The Confident Grief Coach: A Guide for Helping Clients Process Loss. She and her family live in Minnesota.
Links & Resources
- The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss by Mary-Frances O’Connor, PhD
- Find a Certified Fibromyalgia Coach® at FindAFibroCoach.com
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