Episode 138: Balancing Between Acceptance and the Hope of Feeling Better

With fibromyalgia, balancing acceptance and hope can sometimes feel a little like being stuck between a rock and a hard place.

Acceptance isn’t about staying where you are. It’s about embracing the unknown and allowing your body right now while being open to letting her be who she needs to be and become who she needs to become. On the other side, having hope for feeling better means that you believe life will get better, and you’re open to trying different options and seeing what works.

Today, Tami is exploring how to balance the here-and-now focus of acceptance and the forward motion of hope. She’s talking about her GPS analogy for understanding the balance between the acceptance of where you are and the hope of feeling better, what it looks like to aim for being accurate about your goals rather than aiming for perfection, making continuous assessments and adjustments on your journey, accepting your current reality, the moment Tami finally accepted where she was and the struggle to get there, the danger of getting stuck in acceptance, benefits, and challenges that can come with support groups, getting the proper support to help you move toward your goals, how being overly focused on feeling better can keep you stuck, giving treatments a long enough try to honestly know if they are working or not, recognizing that little bits of improvement stack up, how you can start to get unstuck, the benefits of working with a Certified Fibromyalgia Coach®, resources you can tap into if you’re not ready to work with a coach, rethinking self-care, and more.

Tami’s number one goal is that everyone living with fibro will feel like they are in partnership with their body. If you’re not quite sure how to get there yet, this one is for you.

Note: This episode is not meant to be medical advice. Every person and every situation is unique. The information you learn in this episode should be shared and discussed with your own healthcare providers.

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Listener Shoutout

“I believed I was practicing self-care by going to my massage and chiropractor appointments and buying tools to use on my body. I now understand that I was treating my body as an object that I needed to fix and maintain. Self-care is something that must be practiced 24 hours a day, every day, as a partnership with my body. Every decision made throughout the day is motivated by my respect for my body.”

~ Margo Bedo, Certified Fibromyalgia Advisor®